It doesn’t matter if you have just met, you’re getting to know each other, or you’ve been together for a long time. Sometimes, starting a conversation with your partner can be difficult. The good thing is that once you’re able to start, you can build a deep and long conversation that can help you know them better.
Whether you’re looking for fun ways to start a conversation with your spouse or something sexy, interesting, deep, funny, or about finances and more, here are 125 great conversation starters for couples.
Deep Conversation Starters For Couples
1. How do you deal with anger?
2. What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
3. If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?
4. What is your biggest life dream?
5. What have been the highest and lowest points of your life?
6. What are you afraid of the most in your life?
7. What do you consider to be your greatest accomplishment in life?
8. Is there anything that you can’t do without?
9. What is your most cherished moment in life and would you want to experience it again?
10. What does life mean to you?
11. When was the last time you cried and what caused it?
12. Have you ever felt that you were not enough? What did you do about it?
13. What does betrayal mean to you?
14. Would you ever give up on the things that matter most to you in life?
15. Who is God to you?
16. What book had the most impact on you in childhood?
17. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
18. How does your family express love and affection?
19. What was your favorite thing as a child?
20. Who was your favorite teacher while growing up and what was his/her impact on your life?
21. What is the most cherished moment with your parents that you’d never forget?
22. Do you believe in a higher power or something beyond the physical world?
23. Do you believe in luck and being lucky?
24. What is that very little thing that has been said to you at a tender age that has stuck with you?
Best Romantic Starters for Couples
25. How did you know that I was the one?
26. At what point did you fall in love with me?
27. What is your love language?
28. At what age did you start dating and how did it go?
29. What is the ordinary action that you find attractive?
30. What is your favorite memory of us?
31. What would you love to ask me but you’re afraid?
32. Do you like holding hands when outside?
33. Would you still want to be with me if we met under different circumstances?
34. Whenever we are not together, what do you miss most about me?
35. If we were together in the next 10 years, what do you think we would be doing?
36. Is there anything that I would ever do that would make you resent me?
37. I know you have a name but can I call you mine?
38. How do I love you better?
39. Do you believe in soul mates?
40. If we could redo our first kiss, would you want to?
41. If a day comes when you can no longer give me love, what do you think you can give in place of that?
42. What is the most romantic thing I have ever done for you?
43. What is your favorite Bible verse about love?
44. What are the three favorite places on your body to be kissed?
Conversation Starters About Money
45. Do you consider yourself a saver or spender?
46. What is your take on couples having a joint account?
47. If you saw something you wanted, would you rather save to get it or take a loan?
48. What type of things do you like spending money on?
49. What does wealth mean to you?
50. How do you save money?
51. What do you think about money in general?
52. Do you intend to share financial responsibilities or…?
53. Do you work on a budget or do you spend on impulse?
54. What is your long-term financial goal?
55. Would you mind a prenup?
56. How do we protect each other financially if something happens?
57. Would you consider investment plans?
Conversation Starters About the Future
58. How large would you want your family to be?
59. How do you want to grow personally?
60. If you could live anywhere in the world? Where would it be?
61. If you had the opportunity to see only one aspect of your future, which part would you choose to see?
62. Do you ever think there would be a day when you would fall out of love with me?
Funny Conversation Starters for Couples
63. What is your most embarrassing moment?
64. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
65. Assuming I was a celebrity, who would you want me to be?
66. If you were to be an actor, what movie would you feature in and what would be your role?
67. What’s the worst meal I’ve ever prepared for you?
68. If you could choose to be any age for the rest of your life, what age would you choose?
69. What’s something weird you’ve always wanted to try?
70. What is the funniest thing you’ve seen on the internet recently?
Sexy Deep Late-Night Conversation Topics
71. What’s your favorite part of my body?
72. Do you prefer morning s*x or night?
73. What is your wildest s*xual dream?
74. Nice legs you’ve got there. What time do they open?
75. Dear you, you must be a charger because I’m dying without you. Do you mind saving me?
Conversation Starters For Married Couples
76. What is one quality you possess you think would make you a great parent or does make you a great parent?
77. Do you think we should start family traditions?
78. Are there better ways you think we can handle conflicts?
79. What is the one thing you wish to change about our marriage?
80. What is one way I can support you this week?
81. What is one part of our wedding day you will never forget?
82. Are you satisfied with our physical intimacy?
83. What is one thing you love about being married?
84. How can I help you when you’re stressed?
Conversation Starters Before Marriage
85. Do you want to have children and what would you do if you struggled to get pregnant?
86. What are your expectations around childcare and parenting?
87. Are you open to adoption or surrogacy?
88. How much alone time do you need?
89. What’s your communication style?
90. What are your relationship deal-breakers?
91. Do you have fears about marriage?
92. What are your fantasies about marriage and what would you do if they never come to reality?
93. Do you have a problem having in-laws around and how would you deal with issues with them?
94. What does marriage mean to you?
95. Who do you think should handle household chores?
96. Where do you see our relationship going?
97. How do you feel about big proposals?
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Personal Conversation Starters
98. What physical attributes do you like most about yourself?
99. At what point do you think it’s necessary to lie?
100. Would you ever have a tattoo?
101. Which form of art do you feel connected to the most?
102. What is your understanding of animals and how they should be treated?
103. What are your favorite forms of self-care?
104. If religion did not exist, what do you think the world would have been like?
105. What is forgiveness to you and at what point do you think it will be difficult for you to forgive?
106. What’s something you’re good at?
107. What is the one thing that you are most grateful about in life?
108. Do you think people mostly judge you correctly?
109. What is the one word that describes you best?
110. What do you wish more people recognized you for?
111. Is there a thing that you wish you were better at?
112. What do you do when you feel misunderstood by someone who you thought understood you well?
113. Do you consider yourself as an impulsive person?
114. What would it be if you were to change one thing about yourself?
Conversation Starters on Profession
115. What motivates you to work hard?
116. Do you think you work hard or smart?
117. Would you choose fame or wealth?
118. Take away salary, what job would you easily find fulfillment in?
119. Where do see yourself professionally in the next 10 years?
120. If you would want to be anyone in your profession, who would it be?
121. If there was anything you would change about your profession, what would it be?
122. Do you think I can help you achieve some of your career goals?
123. What is the single most important goal you want to achieve in the next ten years?
124. How far can you go to win your goals?
125. What is more important than your job?
In conclusion, starting conversations with your partner is important as it can serve as a way of building a deeper connection. You may wonder what’s reasonable to ask your spouse. You may be surprised that as little as some questions may seem, they can change a lot about you and who you think your partner is.
