It can be a daunting task when it comes to deciphering the signs of male attraction. It is for this reason that we have compiled great lists that involve physical signs, verbal, behavioral, and social signs that you should look out for to know when a man is into you.
Before we delve into the powerful signs that a man is attracted to a woman, it is important to note that the signs we have in this article are based on studies. Others have been given by renowned and certified life coaches and relationship coaches.
Physical Signs and Body Language of Male Attraction
Consciously or subconsciously, there are physical signs that a man will display when he finds a woman attractive. He will use most parts of his body – from his eyes to his lips, his walk, how he sits, his hands, and a lot more.
It was Albert Mehrabian, a researcher of body language, who first broke down the components of a face-to-face conversation. He found that communication is 55% nonverbal.
This means that 55% of communication is through body language. This includes where there is a male attraction.
This study is an obvious sign to pay attention to body language to help you ascertain when a man is attracted to you. This said, here are all the physical signs that a man is attracted to you.
1. He May Maintain Eye Contact More Often and Blink Less Frequently
Eye contact is an obvious non-verbal sign of attraction. Rather than looking into your eyes and looking away quickly, a man who is attracted to you will be extra in making eye contact.
Prolonged eye contact is revealed to cause the release of a chemical responsible for feelings of attraction called phenylethylamine.
More about the eyes and a man’s attraction, studies show that a man blinks less frequently when he is looking at you and finds you attractive. This is because he doesn’t want to kill the chances of looking into your eyes by blinking.
2. His Eyes Will Dip and His Pupil Will Dilate
A man who finds a woman attractive will use his eyes a lot around her. This includes his pupil dilating and his eyes will also dip on her body. Usually, a man’s pupil dilates in the dark or when his emotions are strong – this includes when he is around a woman he has an interest in.
The pupil dilates when there is sexual attraction because the
nervous system is stimulated and your body releases several hormones including dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.
Moving further, a man’s eyes will dip if he finds you attractive. He will focus on eye contact and he’ll then his eyes will occasionally dip. This means that his eyes will move in a triangle shape, from one eye to another. Then, he will travel his eyes to other parts of your body.
3. Leaning in When Talking is a Sign of Male Attraction
If a man leans towards you, it is a good sign that he is interested in you and wants to show you that he is paying attention. Sometimes, he does this act subconsciously.
Sometimes while leaning towards you, he will nod, smile, look into your eyes, and also contribute to whatever you are saying.
4. He Mirrors the Woman’s Gestures and Posture
Often, people mirror body language when they like someone. In a simple term, mirroring behavior is matching someone’s behavior. He copies many things you do such as your facial expressions, your words, voice, blink rate, and breathing among others.
According to Brides.com, mirroring is common in romantic attraction as it
causes a flood of what Reiman calls “love chemicals” a burst of good feelings that make you feel closer to other people.
5. He Will Fidget Now and Then
A man can look confident and act as one. However, when he is around you, he fidgets or is anxious. This is because he is worried about making a good impression.
While this is a notable sign that a man is interested in you, it can also be that the man is bored, restless, and stressed. Therefore, it is important to look at other signs to be able to realize whether he is attracted to you or the reason for his fidgeting is something else.
Some obvious signs of fidgeting to notice in a man include playing with his necktie or necklace; and stumbling over their words.
6. Walking Beside You is a Physical Sign of Male Attraction
Different reports have it that a man who is attracted to you will walk beside you rather than in front or behind you. Also, he walks with you on the inside.
This is because he wants the world to know that he is with you and he also wants to protect you.
Regardless, there are times that he may want to walk behind you. This is because he wants to check you out or he wants you to lead.
7. He is not Glued to His Phone
When you’re around a man who is attracted to you, he will not focus on his phone. Instead, he will pay attention to you.
At this point, this man is more interested in you than any other thing he would get from his phone.
8. He Lingers in the Hug and is Intentional When He Hugs You
Hugs are very common among people regardless of the kind of relationship they have with you. The difference between a man who likes you and just any man is that a man who is attracted to you will give you a firm hug that will last longer than ordinary.
More about this, a man who is attracted to you is intentional. For instance, he squeezes you, sniffs, and is likely to have your hands on his shoulders.
9. They Face You in a Group Setting
When in a group setting, a man who is attractive to you has a high chance to focus on you. He is likely going to face you if the chance presents itself. Then, he will talk more to you and pay attention to little details more to you than to any other person in the group.
Perhaps the reason for this may not be farfetched from what is known as the cheerleader effect (also known as the group attractiveness effect or the friend effect).
This effect is perceived to make a person look 1.5% to 2.0% more attractive in a group than when they’re alone.
10. He Touches you
The language of touch is very important in relationships. Therefore, if a man is attracted to you, he will not hesitate to touch you at every given opportunity.
This touch does not have to be intimate. It could be that he will only hold your hand, touch you lightly on the shoulder, hug you, or touch you in any other part of your body. A man’s touch could only be flirtatious or it could be that he is attracted to a woman.
Generally, touch is a powerful thing that connects people. Also, it activates the cuddle hormone known as oxytocin (also love hormone). This hormone fosters trust, bonding, and affection.
11. He Sits Next to You
If a man likes to sit close to you, there is a high chance that he is attracted to you. He wants to smell you, look at you up close, and touch you.
There are instances when a man who is interested in you will choose to sit across to you. This is because he wants to look directly at you.
12. He wants to be Around You
To be attracted to a woman is also to be able to make it intentional to want to be around her. Therefore, if he enjoys spending time with you, especially when it is just the two of you, then there is an attraction.
We would like to link this to the psychology of attraction. In this case, a psychological study shows that being around someone repeatedly increases the likelihood that they will be attracted to you and vice versa.
So, this could be a subconscious way of a man trying to get you to be attracted to them.
Nonetheless, his wanting to be around you is mostly a conscious effort.
13. He is Intentional About His Looks
With just anyone, he will dress how he wants but with you, there is something a little extra. He is interested in giving you an impression with his looks.
If a man pays attention to his dress, beard, hair, and other physical characteristics around you, he is most likely into you.
Verbal Signs That a Man is Interested in You
Other than physical signs to look out for when a man is attracted to a woman, there are also verbal signs.
In Albert Mehrabian’s study, there is 38% vocal and 7% words in communication. So, you may want to know what percentage of vocals and words a man uses when he is attracted to a woman. In this case, below are the signs to look out for to know if a man is interested in you.
14. He Compliments You
One of the most apparent verbal signs a man is interested in you is when he compliments you. The praise may range from your appearance to your intelligence or your sense of humor.
When a man is attracted to a woman, he often finds himself admiring her attributes and expressing them verbally.
15. He Will Start Conversations and be Curious about Your Personal Life
The willingness to talk and to communicate at the very least says he enjoys you, he likes you.
These are the words of Stephen Speaks, a relationship and life coach.
A man who likes you is interested in starting a conversation and will spend time talking and listening to you. Conversation starters can be difficult for introverts but you would notice his interest when you are talking or when he is talking to you.
Also, his conversation will most likely tilt towards your personal life. He will be interested in knowing more about your family, other forms of relationships, your career, how your day went, and many other things.
While doing this, this man will open up to you about some things about his personal life. Psychologically, a man opens up to a woman when he “feels emotionally safe with”
While talking to you is an important sign that a man is interested in you, he will follow his words with other physical signs.
16. He Talks About the Future
Studies have shown that when a man is attracted to a woman, he talks about the future. This may not be a future that is far from now. It can be talking about tomorrow, a week later, a month, and as long as a year and more.
This man will talk about having more time to be with you. He uses the pronouns “we” and “us” rather than “I” or “you” as the case may be.
See Also: What Do Women Find Attractive In Men?
17. He Remembers Little Details
Have you told this man anything and he has not forgotten? Does he remember how you met, your clothes, and how you smell? Well, there are high chance that he is attracted to you.
To back up this claim, a study reported by the National Library of Medicine shows that:
It is well established that emotional information is better perceived and attended than neutral information, which increases the chance that it is subsequently remembered. The emotional arousal of information also boosts memory-specific processes, such as encoding, (re)consolidation, and retrieval.
18. He Expresses His Feelings
Another verbal sign that a man is interested in you is that he expresses how he feels. This is where openness and trust come in. In any case, revealing his feelings to you may not be romantic. In fact, men who take it slow when they are attracted to a woman are most likely going to express their feelings but not romantically.
This means that they can talk to you about how happy they are, when they are upset, or when they feel a lot of other things.
It is important to note that some men express their feelings in other ways other than verbally. In other non-verbal ways, a man expresses how he feels through gifting, touching you, wanting to speak to you, giving you attention, and trying to protect you.
Behavioral Signs that a Man is Interested in You
Behavioral signs can also be revealing. A man who is attracted to a woman will often go out of his way to help her or make her life easier. Below are the important behavioral signs that a man is attracted to you.
19. He is Willing to Provide for You
Naturally, men are providers. However, they are moved to provide for the people that they love. This includes money, affection, and attention; and in many other ways.
Life and relationship coach Stephen Speaks says that a man who is attracted to you or is in love with you.
shows himself as wanting to be the man you can depend on… When you need something done he’s offering help whether it’s him helping you directly or him finding a way to it done for you from somebody else.
20. He is consistent
With humans, being consistent is also wrapped in showing up for what you love, desire, or what you want to see growth in. It is for this reason that again, Stephen Speaks says if a man is interested in you, he is consistent.
This consistency can be in anything that will make him feel closer to you. He shows up when you need him, he is consistent with talking to you, initiating conversations, responding to your chats, and wanting to see you.
21. He Tries to Protect You From Other Man
According to Adam Lodolce of Love Strategies, a man who is into a woman “shows himself as a dominant protector”. Most times, he gets jealous when you’re with another man.
Men are naturally territorial and they feel threatened when you get attention from other men.
The jealousy can be so subtle that sometimes you may not even notice it. However, you may have to pay attention that his jealousy is not toxic.
22. He Teases You
A man who is attracted to you is likely going to tease you. This is because he is trying to get himself comfortable around you as much as he wants you to be comfortable.
Also, there are chances that he teases you as his way of trying to create humor. Who wouldn’t want humor? After all, studies have shown that women are attracted to men who make them laugh. Also, it has been proven that if a woman likes you, she will laugh at your jokes.
Beyond this, teasing is another form of flirting.
23. He Reciprocates to You
Reciprocation is the act of giving back. When a man is interested in you, he reciprocates acts of kindness, and services, when you give him gifts, or when you call or text back.
Interestingly, he may want to be a little extra when reciprocating. This means that when you give him gifts no matter how little, he is likely going to give you greater gifts. Also, he learns to speak your love language as he tries to mirror your behavior towards him.
24. He Leaves Conversations Open
A man will start a conversation with you but can leave it halfway, then come back later to pick it up from where they left off. For instance, he will not respond to a good night’s text at night. He will return your message in the morning, in hopes of asking about your night. Or, he will end your conversation with a question and later return for an answer.
This act only proves that he enjoys talking to you and would not mind always returning to something to discuss with you.
Social Signs of Male Attraction
A man’s social behavior around you is very important. This is one of the key things to look out for for you to know whether he is interested in you or not. In case you are wondering, these are the signs to look out for.
25. He Introduces to His Family and Friends
Introducing you to his family, friends, and other times colleagues is often deep for a man. It sometimes takes some time for a man to make this move. This is because a man often wants to be sure before he takes this route.
Therefore, if he introduces you to people who mean something to him, it is a great sign that he is into you and wants something serious.
26. He wants to Know Your Circle
If a man is interested in knowing the people in your life, he finds you attractive enough. Sometimes, his being eager to know your circle is a way for him to be convinced that you are into him as much as he is into you.
27. He Talks About You to People Around You
When he thinks about you, he will likely talk about you. When he is fascinated or when he misses you, he is also likely going to talk to the people around him about you.
In a nutshell, men like to talk about the things that they like and the things they think about. This is why it is common for men to talk about sports, games, careers, sex, cars, and women (because these are the things they are interested in – according to popular opinion on Reddit.
28. He Stays Close to You in Public
In a crowd, a man who finds you attractive is most likely going to hang around. He will pay more attention to you.
When you’re not very close to his reach, you will catch him catching a glance at you, stealing a smile, or making other moves that will get you to notice him.
In conclusion, understanding the signs of attraction in men can be a complex task, but with careful observation, it is possible to discern a man’s feelings. Physical, verbal, behavioral, and social signs are all powerful indicators of attraction.
Remember, everyone expresses attraction differently, so it’s important to consider the individual’s personality and relationship dynamics.
Summary of Powerful Signs of Male Attraction
- A man will maintain eye contact more often and blink less frequently if he finds you attractive
- When his pupil dilates, there are high chance that he is attracted to you
- Another sign of male attraction is that he will lean when talking to you
- He mirrors your gestures and posture
- A man will fidget or become nervous around you if he is attracted to you
- He walks with you on the inside
- Another sign of male attraction is that he doesn’t get too attached to his phone when he is around you
- He faces you in a group setting
- He touches you
- A man who finds you attractive will sit next to you
- He wants to be around you
- If a man finds you attractive, he becomes intentional about his looks
- He compliments you
- He becomes curious about your personal life
- Talking about the future with you is a good sign of male attraction
- He remembers details about you
- In male attraction, he will express his feelings
- He will provide for you
- He becomes consistent
- A man who is attracted to you will protect you from other men
- He teases you
- In male attraction, he reciprocates
- He leaves the conversation open
- He introduces you to his loved ones
- If he gets serious about knowing your circle, he is attracted to you
- He talks about you to other people
- He stays close to you in public