The best of things can be improved upon, likewise the best of people. But whether being a better girlfriend is worth it or not is not an easy question to answer since the word ‘better’ in a relationship can be relative and could be interpreted to be making comparisons with someone else. Be that as it may, everyone strives to become better in life and a good guess is, you are reading this because you want to improve yourself and your relationship. The list below is not exhaustive but could help.
Tips For Being A Better Girlfriend
1. Ensure you respect your man
Respecting your man is the first tip on how to be a great girlfriend. If you start treating your boyfriend with respect, he will return the favor by showing you more affection and tenderness. The fact is that a man feels more masculine when he is respected.
2. Treat him to a self-made dinner
To surprise your partner with a home-cooked candlelight dinner, you don’t need to be the best cook. Just choose a great recipe that is simple to prepare, turn down the lights, and get a few candles. It’s not about preparing a time-consuming intercontinental dish. It’s about the love, effort, and grace you have shown.
3. Make his birthday memorable
Most men naturally don’t like to make their birthdays an occasion. In fact, sometimes they only remember their birthdays a few days later. You must not prepare anything loud, even though a surprise birthday could work sometimes. But in case you don’t have the financial capacity or you know he doesn’t like crowds. You can do the simplest of things like getting him a gift of his favorite or everyday-use item. Things like belts, wallets, or cufflinks could make the list.
4. Let him pick the movie
This may not be true, but it is generally believed that women are a bit selfish when it comes to selecting from the channel list. Are you the type that forces romantic comedies on him when what he wants is some science fiction? Next time, give the guy a break and let him choose the movie.
5. Send him a text when he least expects
The fact is that sometimes the little things are what really count. It’s not always necessary to put a lot of work into being a good girlfriend. Sometimes a brief SMS sent at the correct moment has a bigger impact than a complex plan.
6. Let him know how fortunate you are to have him
Flattery works in mysterious ways. Don’t forget to compliment your partner and tell him how lucky you are to have him. Men are naturally self-confident, therefore nice comments will only make him swell even more.
7. Give your phone a break
Turning off your phone and paying attention to your partner is one of the ways a relationship might improve. Our lifestyles have incorporated phones so thoroughly that they now take up our time and divert our focus from the people who actually matter. You can make him feel important by turning off your phone and concentrating on him.
8. Get tickets for his favorite thing
Now this may not really be your thing but if he loves it, try to go all out and support him. It may be a ticket for a movie premier or a game involving his favorite team.
9. Don’t make too many financial demands
It is very okay for your partner to offer you cash. However, let him handle things on his own. He may not say it. But really, making financial demands could really make him feel irked. Remember that you are not married yet. You are only dating. Not to say you must pay for everything. In fact, if he lets you do that, It’s a big red flag already. Just compliment his efforts whenever you can and don’t be too demanding.
10. Don’t get too jealous
Insecurity in a relationship is a major turn-off. As much as possible, try to manage it. It is practically impossible not to feel jealous once in a while. But if what you guys have going is real, trust your man and let him know that you do. But full-blown jealousy is never a good look for anyone, and it turns most people off.
11. Encourage him
A good girlfriend knows that her man is not hundred percent perfect. If you have taken your time to know your boyfriend’s weaknesses, try as much as possible to help him fix them in the most polite way possible. This is very important.
12. Don’t be arrogant
You and your lover might get estranged as a result of arrogance. You should treat your lover equally as a partner. When your ego shows up, things can quickly turn worse. Relationships are kept in check by humility on both sides.
13. Always dress well and smell nice
This point cannot be overemphasized. Maybe your boyfriend has already assured you of his love no matter how you look. But please, try to always pay attention to how you look. It is the first thing that he will notice whenever he sees you. More so, smelling nice may be all about self-care, but it also helps in attracting people to you. Always smell nice and look presentable without losing a touch of yourself of course.
14. Be loyal to him
As much as a woman wants to be the only one in a man’s life, the man also wants to know that he is not competing against anybody. Just try not to give him reasons to feel otherwise. Be mindful of the space and contact you maintain with other guys and let your loyalty be on his side.
15. Try to appreciate his efforts
It’s crucial that you recognize your boyfriend’s efforts if he is trying to keep you content in your relationship. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him, regardless of how little he has done. A quick thank you or a kiss on the cheek can do wonders.
16. Give him some space when necessary
When your man is in need of some space, it can be difficult to not take it personally. But in actuality, every man needs his space sometimes. He might simply want to relax, take a walk or nap all by himself. Always be gracious to grant him that time. It will be for the best. The only problem is when the space becomes too wide and the time too long. This could be a red flag.
17. Quit nagging
Keeping an eye on your tone is essential if you want to be a great girlfriend. Women who talk too much or nag about the smallest issues are disliked by men. Simply ask him to do anything for you when you need it, but if he refuses, let him know in a calm manner that you feel ignored and irritated.
18. Learn what makes him tick
Each man is triggered by certain things. Consider those things and try to stay as far away from them as you can. If he does not like the TV so loud, tune down the volume. Compromises give relationships wings to fly.
19. Try out his hobbies
You should have your own interests, but make an effort to participate in some of his. Play his favorite game with him or help him with the lyrics of his songs if he is a singer. This often shows him how much you care.
20. Get along with his family
This may not apply in every situation because it could be out of your control. But being the best girlfriend sometimes means trying to fit in with his family. Some men feel accepted when you are cool with their families. However, don’t force this if it is not working out for you.
21. Dont hold grudges
Grudges may be quite destructive in a relationship. It is common knowledge that people occasionally provoke one another. But what do you do with it? Do you harbor resentments against him and continually point out his flaws? If you want to improve, you must let that go.
22. Dont transfer aggression
Make sure to leave a poor day behind you always. Don’t lash out at him. Don’t vent your anger on him. Inform him of your difficult day and discuss it with him if you can. Don’t only be quick to anger. He may be your lover, but it doesn’t give him the right to tolerate your unwarranted rage all the time.
23. Don’t compare him to your ex
If you want to make your current man feel unique, you shouldn’t make comparisons to your former relationships. Don’t tell him he’s the best; instead, let him know that he’s the only one. This way, there won’t be room for comparisons.
24. Admit your fault and apologize when you make mistakes
When you realize that you made a mistake, swallow your pride, don’t be ashamed to own up to it, and apologize to him. He will like you for this.
25. Always compliment him
In comparison to a compliment from a total stranger, one from someone you love has more meaning. However, you don’t have to tell him lies in order to make him feel loved. Instead, be truthful and deliberate with your remarks, and let your remarks be authentic too.
26. Express your sincere gratitude
‘Thanks’ is usually the word. You should thank him for his politeness sacrifices and every other thing he does. This will make him feel appreciated.
27. Offer him a massage
Nothing feels more special than being spoilt with a massage after a long day. What could be more satisfying than giving him a relaxing massage? If he spends the entire day standing, give him a foot massage. Work lightly on his shoulders and neck. The goal is to calm him down and get rid of his worry and anxiety.
28. Respect his wishes
Even if you might not always agree with your boyfriend’s opinions or actions, healthy relationships require mutual respect. Because of this, you should consider his wishes while not necessarily putting your own needs aside. Sometimes, giving in a little to his requests could teach you something about him in addition to making him feel loved.
29. Learn from others
Learning from other people will always help you become better. The world does not revolve around you and the mistakes and gains of others have a tendency of helping you become better.
30. Be patient with him
It takes time for a relationship to grow. In case he is not meeting up to certain standards yet, just try to give him time. If he is willing to grow you will see changes in no distant time and he will appreciate you for your patience and tolerance.