When it comes to relationships and who we want in our lives, not everyone can have a place of priority. While no two persons or men are the same, different things make us want to keep a man very far from us.
Since figuring out if a man is the one to be kept around or not, traits like lies, narcism, cheating, and selfishness are not acceptable and such types of men should be avoided at all costs.
Men You Should Avoid at All Costs
1. The Narcissist
This type of man thinks the world revolves around him and everything must be in his favor. When dealing with him, the narcissist likes to dominate and he would do this to everyone around him. Sadly, his need for control is so toxic that he would want to choose your clothes, control your movement, and tell you who to talk to or not.
He is so jealous that he becomes abusive when things don’t go his way. Eventually, his need for control becomes manipulative and toxic. If you still think such a man is manageable, then pay attention to studies about narcists. Research shows that men are more narcissistic than women and in most instances, they transfer this to their romantic relationships.
Considering this, the narcissist man is one that you should avoid.
2. The Emotionally Unavailable One
First things first, an emotionally unavailable man is someone who has commitment and intimacy fears. By extension, this type of man may deprive you of enjoying a healthy relationship due to little or no commitment to building a relationship with you.
In turn, this may lead to dissatisfaction because you are missing out on the perks of enjoying emotional support.
3. The Liar
Psychologists give many reasons why people lie with the topmost being to feel happier, keep a secret, avoid punishment, carelessness, and pleasure. We have all been lied to at some point and whether we knew at the time or not, there is a certain level of distrust that comes with realizing that we have been lied to.
For hints, he is inconsistent about a lot of things and these traits bounce back to either trying to cover up his tracks or one of the many reasons people tell lies.
If a man’s words prove too good to be true, then you may want to take a slow step and rethink it. After all who wants to be with someone that cannot stick?
4. A Violent Man
The world over, gender-based violence is frowned upon. Oddly, there are records of abuse ranging from physical, verbal, or even emotional that a man may inflict on his partner. In such cases, he may want to do this to maintain power.
5. The Cheating Man
Cheating is a serious occurrence in any relationship. Within marriages, the chances of cheating happening are up to 20-25% while it is as high as 75% in relationships.
Even though some women claim cheating is not a deal breaker for them, it has been proven that cheating causes chronic anxiety, post-traumatic disorder stress, depression, and mistrust. It is important to know whether one wants to risk suffering all these or avoid such a man.
6. An Extremely Insecure Man
An insecure man may have the thoughts that you are not loyal to him and this will lead to accusations of infidelity or suspicion. Such type of man exhibits traits of jealousy, low self-esteem, protectiveness, and fear of criticism which they will not admit to but rather blame you as the bad one.
7. The Lazy Guy
Relationships are supposed to give us an extra push to be a better version of ourselves. In essence, it means taking responsibility like paying the bills, initiating dates, or even conversations. But when certain expectations are not met because the guy is lazy, it breeds anger, bitterness, and resentment.
In the long run, a guy who does not want to up his game and contribute to the success of a relationship should be left at all costs.
8. Mummy’s Boy
This type of man will tick your boxes when it comes to being nice but he shares a deeper connection with his mum. As such, he is not independent and will run every idea by her before making a decision.
Oddly, he is also going to compare you to her and will never go against her even if it means at your own expense.
9. The One Married to His Career
Everyone is attracted to a man with a vision and long time plans. However, this trait becomes undesirable when his career is the only important thing in his life.
While this can be managed, a man married will spend all his waking hours strategizing how to climb the ladder or expand his company. Do you still feel you have a chance? The answer is to avoid this type of man, he is already married to his job.
10. The Man That Badmouth’s Others
Somehow, if a man does not see anything good in others, he will likely not see good in you. He either claims to be the victim, so he parted ways with his ex or friends.
For proof, he easily calls his ex ‘crazy’.